Guys, Please Give Us Girls a Break!

Guys, please give us a break. I really do not understand it.

I met this guy a while ago. He told he wanted to marry but that all girls are bad. I allowed him to talk that day because I thought he had had a bad experience or experiences (we've all had) and needed to vent.

The next time we met, he told me that he was ready to settle down this year but that girls are very bad and very materialistic and only cares about the guy's money. He went on and on.  I said to him, "If you really want a good girl, you will see one. There are good girls out there." He said it was a lie, that all girls are bad. That included my humble self standing before him. It hurt shaa.

I said to him, "Have you ever considered that guys have contributed to how our girls have turned out today? A man is married and yet he keeps a girl. When his wife calls, he asks her to keep quiet. When she asks for money, he gives her 200K or more and buys her the latest technology in phones and gadgets. You see an unemployed girl using a phone worth 200K or more. So when another guy who really wants to date and marry her gives her 20K, she will think the guy is joking because the big man has thwarted her sense of love and giving. And all those times he asks her to keep quiet because his wife is on the phone, what do you think that is doing to her self esteem? And finally, when she marries, he has also destroyed her ability to trust that her husband can be faithful to her, what with all she has seen."

Now, this is not a defense case for girls. A lot of sisters do some real bad stuff out there. I'm only opening our eyes to a fresh perspective.

Back to my friend. I said all these and yet he wouldn’t stop. He maintained that all girls are bad and are only out to destroy a man’s happiness. I finally lost it and said to him, "If you think all girls are bad, close your eyes and choose one bad girl to marry. We are all the same. So you might as well choose one bad one and rest the case." Ain't it?

Law of attraction teaches that whatever you believe will always come to you. So, if you believe same about ladies, good for you. Choose one bad one and please give us girls a break.

But then, how about all those men that appreciate and praise their wives in churches, in their books, before their friends and family, on Facebook and on different Social Media Networks, could they all be lying? If they all are, to what purpose?

One thing I know for a truth is this: Women respond to true love. True love doesn't have anything to do with the size of a man’s pocket but with how worthy a man makes a woman feel in his presence. Haven't you seen it in Nigerian movies; where the princess will leave the rich prince to marry the village palm wine tapper?

Yours Truly,
Beulah