“Is it that bad that
you will spend a whole night with me on the bed and not touch me, is that how
much you do not want me?”
“I’m feeling
cold, can you hold me?”
I’m sure you are familiar with these kinds of sentences. You
must have heard it said somewhere or you may have used it yourself. Let me
rewind a moment before this plays out. A girl visits a guy and ends up spending
the night in his place. It could be a friendly visit or that the girl is
stranded. They are not emotionally entangled. They have to sleep on the same
bed because there is only one bed and it’s a one bedroom apartment. They are
both mature or so the guy thinks and so can handle sleeping on the same bed and
be able to handle all those flying hormones that seem to act so erratically
these days. The guy changes into a sleeping outfit after the girl had done that
and also had to be outside while she changed. He hits the bed and starts
snoring almost immediately. The girl is surprised and tries to touch him but
he’s really gone. After a few minutes she taps him and says, “Please can you
hold me, I’m feeling cold.” The guy tells her to use the duvet. She still
thinks he’s sleepy and then really wakes up him up. She goes; “you mean you
will just sleep like that? Won’t you touch me at least?” The guy goes; “I
cannot have sex with a girl I am not emotionally involved with.” The girl is
hurt. She sulks all night. Very early, she packs her stuffs and leave. In one
case I know, she severed contact with the guy.
Ladies, are you serious? That’s real love(respect) and
that’s a real man. What would it have cost him to take especially since you are
the one offering? Many a guy would even try to seduce you but this one chose to
uphold your dignity and you were not wise enough to judge him a good man?
We live in a society where sex has been bastardized and made
into a free for all thing. The same society is paying for it. Relationships
hanging loose because the two were in too much hurry to jump into bed before
getting to know themselves. Soaring divorce rate. Broken homes. Broken
children. Broken hearts. Damaged ego. Loss of sense of identity, et al. Yet, in
all these we all crave to be loved and accepted. We crave for that significant
other that will stay for the long run. It amazes me that the human heart craves
for this yet so many of us are unwilling to do what it takes to get there. We
still follow the status quo and end up at the same end of the road with
everyone else.
Haven’t you noticed that when a girl has it together, when
she has something to offer other than her pants, she exudes a lot of confidence in contrast to girls who feel that whatever they get in life must be
through the power of their pants. That's no place to be.
Ladies, it’s time for us to realize that we are worth more
than that position below our skirts. The true beauty of a lady is in her
character and the priceless gift of her talents and potentials dished out in
the plate of her loving, gentle, resilient and multi-tasked personality.
Remember that. Make the man respect the sex he will get from you by the weight
of your content because at a point, pure sexual ecstasy will no longer hold
what you previously thought was love. There is nothing like casual sex. There
is nothing like a one-night stand. It follows you through that night, many more
nights and several years to come. It affects you psychologically, sometimes
destroying your sense of self worth.
Stop going there. Stay for that guy that
truly knows and deserves you while locking up your stuff. The real guy should
get the cookie. Just saying. Lol.
Twitter:@club7teen
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